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Saturday, September 26, 2009

No Greater Magic

Hey girls! I'm SO glad that Friday is finally over. hehehe. I got up on Friday morning, and was SO tired. Captain America and I had stayed up till about 1 am on Thursday night, and after only getting 3 1/2 hours the night before that, I was pretty tired. I got the kids ready for school, sent them on their way, and got ready for my walk. Jake and Jim were coming with me! Captain America fixed the stroller the night before, and Andrea had an extra seat in the double stroller. I was SO covered for Jimmy a place to sit - hehehe.

Katy and Adela and I and Andrea and Kim all went walking! And a different Kim from the neighborhood came too! And Jake. He listened to his headphones and walked behind/in front of us. He's such a good kid :)

After the walk, we came back home, and Jake started on his school work. Captain America was up by then (hehehe, he's SO loves being on vacation), so we hung out for a little while. Around lunch time, Adela and Kim and I went to lunch at Taco Cabana, then to Ross. I found the CUTEST workout clothes! Wanna see a picture?

The pants were $9, the shirt was $7, and the sunglasses were $5. Not too bad :) I also bought some Halloween Cookie cutters. Wilton brand even. 18 for $7. I thought it was a good deal.

We got home at around 3pm, and shortly after that Jimmy and Captain America left to run errands. Captain America was going on a campout with the 11 yr old scouts at around 6pm. He and Jimmy were doing last minute prep stuff. Jake and I stayed here and worked on school.

A few more emails were exchanged between the scout leader and his wife and Captain America and I and the Primary president. What a mess. Basically, how it stands is that they're ok with Captain America now, but I suck. Basically. Because apparently I look down on them, treat them like 3rd class citizens, and talk inappropriately to him. Whatever. Thursday, it made me angry. Friday, it hurt my feelings. And yes, a few tears were shed about it. It really started to get to me. Made me not want to keep going with it. Made me not want to do anything. And yes, besides the tears, there was some emotional eating going on. That even made me more upset. That these people can have this power over me.

I think I wanna be over it. To just forget that it happened, and not think about it again this weekend. I can't really change someones mind. If they have it in their head that I'm a certain way (and I'm not), there's not really anything I can do to change that. So I should just stop worrying about it..... Easier said than done, though. The Primary president suggested that I pray about it, and give my concerns over to the Lord. She's always so good. She knows just what to do. Thanks, Heidi! I SO appreciate all you do! You're the best :)

At about 3:45pm, Captain America called and wanted me to meet him at the commissary with some cash. He needed to buy the food for the campout. I guess he forget to take it when he left earlier. By this point, the kids were home from school. I left Jake in charge and ran the money up to him. He had the truck, and I had the car. I took back the truck, and left him the car. I'd MUCH rather drive around in my suburban.

At 4:15 pm, Jim and I and Eme and Joe (and Tom for a little while) met Andrea at the park. She watches our friend Kayley's kids while she teaches a few of them Piano. One on one time with Mom. What a great idea :) Andrea and I had fun chatting. We're planning on having a "product party" on Tuesday, and she was calling/texting people invites. We've done Pampered Chef, Sensi, and this one is Pure Romance. Yeah, not our typical thing. hehehe. Some of the girls wanna get some stuff for "pre-deployment". It's just gonna be the girls (no kids) and is gonna be at Kim's house. I'm just looking forward to having a girls night. Not necessarily the "product" part of it - ROFL! I'll let ya know how it goes - hehehe.

I went back home at 5pm, got a quick dinner for the kids, and helped Captain America off. He was loading all the stuff into the car, and it didn't look like it was gonna fit. I told him, just take the Truck. I didn't need it. He seemed so relieved.

He got all loaded up and packed, and he and Tom left. Tom's not the right age group, but Captain America's assistant had to bring his 9 or 10 year old, so Captain America decided to bring Tom, since he's the same age. I think that they're all gonna have fun.

SO, I'm at home, relaxing, trying hard not to think about scout stuff, letting the kids have a nice relaxing evening, when I get a call from Captain America. He's forgot his chapstick and his vitamins. He wants me to drive them out to him. Are you kidding me??? It's about a 30 minute drive. Sigh. If it was just a normal vitamin, I would have said NO WAY. BUT, it was his vitamins that help with the allergies. Sigh. So I gotta do it. I load Jimmy up in the car, and we head out.

And as I'm driving over the mountain, I realize that I have the car. And Jake is supposed to go and hike McKelligon canyon at 9am in the morning. And the car has 4 seats. And I have 4 kids and me. Crap! I'll have to think about that one a bit more.

I get to the campground, and the gate is closed and locked. I call Captain America, and he says to just leave the stuff by the gate. So I do, and head back home. Jimmy has fallen asleep in the car, but when I try and put him in his bed, of course he wakes up. The kids really want me to read a chapter of the Hunger Games to them, so I decide to do it. Even though Tom's not here. He can read a chapter by himself on Saturday and catch up. Joe falls asleep on the couch near my feet.

I let the kids stay up late and play computer. At 8:30pm I tell them all to go to bed. We've gotta wake up early on Saturday morning. I just leave Joe on the couch. I figure if he wakes up and wants to go to him bed, more power to him. Otherwise, he can sleep on the couch.

At about 9:30pm I get a call from Katy telling me that the girls are finished with their "waiting family dinner" (a special dinner/activity for the families of soldiers that are deployed - usually monthly) and that I should come over. We'd planned on watching episode 2 of this seasons Survivor. I tell Jake that I'm going out, and head on over. Eme and Jim and Joe are all asleep, and Jakes all tucked into bed. Did I mention lately that I LOVE having a 12 year old in the house??? My quality of life has gone up SO much since he got to be babysitting age :)

Katy and Adela and I had SO much fun watching Survivor. I can't believe that we have to wait another week to see episode 3! We can't stand Russell. He's so nasty. And evil. Ewwhh!

At about 11:30pm we went to Helens house to check on her cat. She's visiting family in California, and won't be back for a while. Katy said the poor kitty seemed lonely. She...he...it...was so happy to see Katy. Helen had left a little treat bag for Katy for coming and helping out. Awe, how sweet! Katy shared the gummy lifesavers with us. They were SO tasty. I haven't had candy in MONTHS! Mmmmm. I think the greens were my favoritest.

We went back to Katys house, and hung out till 2ish. I so love my girl time! So, here I am. It's 2:48am, and I have to wake up at 7:45 am to get ready for the canyon run/walk. Thank goodness Captain America fixed the stroller. I don't think that Jim would be able to handle it another week. I invited that new Kim to come on the walk/run with us. Maybe if she comes, she can help transport kids! That's a perfect idea. See, this is why I blog. To flush out ideas :) I'm so clever!

This WordArt request is from Irene. What a great saying! Click on the links below to go to my account to download the PNG file, and leave some love if you like my work. Thanks!


Rubypat said...

Thanks for the word art. I'm sorry you've had the problem with the scouting personnel. I think some males feel uncomfortable when a female shows them how it should be done! I hope it sorts out quickly for you. Don't give up - you have great skills, and you just need to show them all!
I wonder if you could do a Word Art for me - Last year my then 5 year old was very, very ill; when we gave her permission to 'go', she asked if she could stay "Just for five minutes more." I'd love to do a layout with this quote. PS. She decided, after 3 weeks of touch and go, that she was not ready just yet!!

Anonymous said...

Sigh - sorry that the resolution wasn't the best in the world. I think they also need to pray and look inside their hearts. However, don't let them have more power over you because YOU are stronger than them inside where it counts. Give yourself a hug and remember that YOU are important. Thanks for the quote.

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for this Freebie. I want to let you know that I posted a link to your blog in CBH Digital Scrapbooking Freebies, under the Page 8 post on Sep. 26, 2009. Thanks again.

Mom2mykids said...

I'm so sorry about your scouting problems. Hope that guy gets a swift kick in the rear end from the Spirit! And I completely agree with you about Survivor. Russell is EVIL! I hated to see Betsy go, she was terrific. Stupid Foa Foa is gonna get themselves wiped out if they're not careful (how many times have we seen THAT happen on Survivor)?! Oh, and thanks for the word art. (I did leave a thanks at 4shared too!)

JamWest1007 said...


OK, it's true, I'm mostly a lurker. But here I am, stretching myself, and jumping in. :-/

I am a Homeschooling SAHM, and I can so relate to life with kids...although I think you are amazing the way you handle 5. WOW! I love hearing about your family and your days, and really appreciate you sharing your work with all of us.

I'm sorry you have been struggling with some of the others in scouting. We had a similar situation arise in Baseball this summer, and boy can it be draining. Like you, I prayed and worked hard to turn it over...I really hated giving others the power to make me feel soooo bad. I found this affirmation, and boy was it a great reminder:

Dwelling on hurt feelings and past wrongs allows others free rent space in my mind.

WOW! There is barely enough space in my mind for me, I most certainly do not want to give others free rent space. LOL Anyway, the reminder really helped me, and I thought you might like it. :-)

Thanks for sharing Bethany!


Anonymous said...

Thank you! Your blog post will be advertised on the DigiFree Digital Scrapbooking Freebie search engine today (look for timestamp: 26 Sep [LA 09:14pm, NY 11:14pm] - 27 Sep [UK 04:14am, OZ 02:14pm] ).

Brenda said...

Thanks Bethany! Your word art rocks! Wish I had your energy!

JEROSHA said...

This is so lovely! TFS =D

diane said...

Beautiful word art, thanks so much for sharing! I'm sorry to hear about the problems you've been having. My oldest child is now 20, and over the years I've experienced similar situations with scouts, sports, pta..you name it, I've probably seen it ;-) A very smart woman once told me that as much as I'd like to be able to control what other people do and how the act, I can't. The only thing I can control is how I react to them. Even if at times my best reaction is to let my inner 5 year old come out and make a silly face behind their back..totally harmless, but it lightens my mood ;-) Take care and thanks again.

Terri said...

I just saw this positive thought today and it reminded me of your current situation. "You can trust yourself. Other people's opinions are driven by their needs and emotions- not by magical insights about your worth." Thank you for the word art and stay Blessed!

Betty Benton said...

Love this word art! It has come at the perfect time for a friend. Thank you for sharing!

Ladye said...

This is going to be perfect for a page of the wedding pictures. The wedding is next weekend, my youngest son is getting married to the girl of his dreams. They are both in their mid 30's and have never been married before. SO I am thrilled of course since she is like part of the family already, just wish we all lived closer than an 8 hour drive. Thanks you for all of the beautiful word art I have snagged over the months.

Carina said...

I like to think when put in your situtation and dealing with others opinions of me that there is always some truth in what is being said. No matter how hard it is to be critiqued by others I try and be open minded to how I am percived by someone else. But no matter what a person says it should always be discussed in a mature and responsible way, if that isn't being done then I write of the relationship and close the door. I have no time for accusations, ill feelings and childish actions. Prayer works as well as looking deep inside yourself and admitting that we are all a work in progress. Good Luck